2 Become 1

Driving point to this post is that Purity paves the way to intimacy.

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”  So the Lord God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one.  He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening.  Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed.

“This one is bone from my bone,

and flesh from my flesh!

She will be called ‘woman,’

because she was taken from ‘man.’” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame. (Genesis 2:18-25 NLT)

Why do you think that the animals were not a suitable helper for man?

Now how many of us noticed it is written that, But still there was no helper suitable for him.

Although both Adam and animals were created from the ground no suitable helper for Adam was found among the animals. It was impressed upon Adam that in every case there were two animals—a male and a female. He was the only creature without a counterpart. Although all things were created good, it was not good for Adam to be alone. A need for a companion was created in Adam. 

So as we see here God never intended for us to be alone he has a mate for us.

It was obvious to Adam that the animals came in pairs and he had no mate. Since God deliberately had Adam name the animals after seeing his need for a partner, God used this to prepare Adam to receive the gift of woman.

Helper as an Equal

Eve was created not only as a helper to Adam but also as an equal. It is not a belittling term for it is often used in the Bible to describe God Himself. Eve had the same nature as Adam and was created to complement him. Each of them made up for that which the other lacked. 

They were united into One:

As has been often stated, woman was not made from man's head for him to lord over her, neither was she made from the feet of man so that he could trample over her. She was made from his side so they could share their life experiences together. The couple was one unit. 

RIB: Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed.“This one is bone from my bone,and flesh from my flesh!

The King James Version says that Adam's rib was used in the creation of Eve. It is used more than thirty times in the Old Testament and is only translated rib in this passage. It refers to the side of Adam. In the Sumerian language, one of the most ancient known to humanity, the word for rib also means life. In this context it is clear that the woman was created from the life of the man. 

The First Marriage:

Why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one 

Monogamy- Why is it important that we only have one companion?

Monogamy means to be married to one person.

In today’s society it is portrayed as being ok to be in multiple relationships when it is convenient for the other person, it is glamorized. But that is not what God had intended.

From the beginning, God instilled the practice of monogamy—one man would be with one woman. Jesus emphasized that this was God's original purpose in creation. 

And He answered and said to them, Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate (Matthew 19:4-6). 

One Flesh:

In that scripture we hear and They shall become one flesh or united,

What do you think of when you hear this? SEX

but One flesh is so much more than just sex. Sex of course plays a part.

Though an initial bond in a one flesh relationship can be formed at the first sexual relationship a couple has, the fullness of what God wants to do in the one flesh relationship takes time. But I really want you all to get this before anything else, It has to become.  It has to become, before anything the uniting of two people has to BECOME ONE!

Now who can tell me what it means to BECOME something?

That takes time, and above all unity,  and marriage is a union.

The word Become means to grow to be.

So in all things before Sex, it has to become.  

Purity, They were naked and not ashamed.

The idea of “nakedness” is far more than mere nudity. It has the sense of being totally open and exposed as a person before God and man. To be naked . . . and not ashamed means you have no sin, nothing to be rightly ashamed of, nothing to hide.

Often times we want to impress the opposite sex, by dressing nice, getting a nice haircut, girls your makeup, but when Adam and Eve were naked and not ashamed none of these things mattered. Because these feelings did not exist.

That is why Purity paves the way for intimacy in a relationship.

What I want you to take away from all of this is that to become one flesh it takes time. It does not just happen in dating you have to BECOME ONE in several ways. It is a union that two people make and that is why it is called marriage because you are becoming one.